*nods thoughtfully*
These things are probably the most difficult to understand or define in the whole world. I mean, how can I even be sure if I have been in love or not? What does it exactly mean? I mean, there have been people who have made me blush violently and my knees go literally weak just by entering the same room, people I have felt a strong connection to from the second I saw them and who have haunted my dreams ever since. Is that being in love? Some would probably say yes, but I don't think it has anything to do with love. I know love. Love is unconditional and selfless, something higher. Oh well...
I guess I have the same problem as you: those who want me I can only see as friends and those who I might want are unavailable one way or another. First person I kissed? A friend of mine after her boyfriend dared me to. And the only other person in addition to her was a guy friend who was drunk and just randomly kissed me and I thought "What the hell, why not?". Not terribly romantic.
And I don't even really know if I would know how to be in a traditional monogamous relationship. Not that I would sleep around or anything, not my style at all, but I guess I just have a hard time with the idea of committing myself to loving only one person for the rest of my life. But on the other hand, there is also the "wolves mate for life" ideology that is deep in my backbone. Mating for life with no strings attached? That would be ideal. But finding such thing? Unlikely. *sigh*