Just a quick answer to your replies. Yeah, I think I have quite a similar take on love as you do. I mean I have also come across people who have made my head spin, palms sweat, who have somehow made me so insecure and vulnerable and haunted my dreams for a long time. But that is definetely not love for me. I guess some people would say exactly the opposite, that the so-called butterflies are the only real sign of love, but I could not trust them or build anything lasting on that kind of emotions. Which I guess sets me apart from many people in my life and bothers me sometimes.

And I am sort of a commitment-phobic too, but just like you, not because I would like to enjoy or experince life as a single or date other people. Sometimes I just need to be on my own, without any resposibilities towards anyone else, but still knowing that there is someone out there, who undestands me and loves me no matter what. Yeah, and I also know that it is quite a lot to ask.:)

-Maarit